Changes...Revisited

"The only thing that doesn't change is nothing ever stays the same."

I wouldn't say I'm any kind of poetic. And I know that several "versions", if not that exact quote above, have been said by people more famous than I. [I like how I said "more" as if I'm any kind of famous at all...hahaha] But I definitely just decided that the quote above defines my life. It's my current motto. I'm hoping it will help me better "go with the flow" of things, roll with the punches, etc etc.

If you don't quite understand it, what I mean is this: the fact that "nothing ever stays the same" is the only thing in life that doesn't change. More simply: EVERYTHING CHANGES and always will!

I cannot express this enough. I'm a planner. I love to plan from parties to events to trips...I write lists constantly. I'm learning that I can't plan my life. When I was in high school, dating a guy for 2 years, we made a plan. Plans changed when the blonde chick at his job enticed him to be unfaithful. I was engaged to a different guy and we had a plan. Those plans changed when he chose to be with his best friend's girlfriend instead. My plans with BS have never stayed the same. My plans for my education, my job, my living arrangements...

I used to be devastated when plans fell through, when my life didn't turn out how I thought it was going to. It's such a difficult lesson for me to learn, how to NOT plan, but I feel like I'm beginning to get the hang of it. I still have urges to want to know what's going to happen later on in life...but even if I made a plan, even if I thought I knew what was going to happen...NOTHING STAYS THE SAME!

That's my life lesson for the month. On to a funny story...

So has everyone heard that I'm engaged?! LOL. What started as an innocent joke has since spiraled out of control.

I am a high school cheerleading coach. At the school's back to school night, our program was hosting a bake sale. Parents and students alike were milling about the campus, going from class to class, meeting teachers. Several football players and cheerleaders were waiting for parents to finish the meet and greet and were sitting at tables across from our bake sale booth. One of my cheerleaders approached me and said "Ooh! Coach! You have a football player in LOVE with you!" I laughed and said "What?!" as CR asked "Who?!". The cheerleader named a football player and explained the conversation. She walked away and we laughed it off.

Not 5 minutes later, another cheerleader approaches the booth. "Coach, *football player* is going to come over here and ask you to marry him...just warning you!" CR and I look at each other and can't stifle laughter. She asks me what I'm going to say and I say "Well, I mean, I'm single right?! Might as well say yes!" At that point, the football player is heading towards the bake sale booth alongside other football players, who I assume were coming to witness the spectacle first hand. As he's walking, he announces to the entire quad "I'M ABOUT TO MAKE THIS WOMAN MY WIFE!" [might I remind you, it's back to school night, so there are parents, faculty, students and staff everywhere] He walks behind the booth and says "Coach Melissa, turn around, gimme your hand...will you marry me?" I say yes and he stands, giving the thumbs up to the group of football players and cheerleaders at the tables across from our booth. CR and I are cracking up as he tells me he'll have a ring for me the following week. CR made a joke about making it a ringpop and I requested a green one.

That night, I thought it would be funny to change the "relationship status" on facebook to read "engaged". BEST IDEA EVER turned into the WORST IDEA EVER! People who were there to witness the proposal thought it was the funniest thing they'd ever read. The football player even accepted my request so you could see the profile of the person I was supposedly engaged to [and you could also see that he's not even old enough to vote]. Acquaintances, even some of my best friends, were either congratulating me or asking me why they had to find out on facebook. It was the funniest thing I'd ever done...for the first 12 hours.

It began to get REALLY annoying telling people (who I felt should know me better than that) that it was all a hoax. Then the rumors started...apparently, some snoopers came to the conclusion that this random engagement to a person no one in my friend circle has ever heard of MUST mean that I'm pregnant with his child and planning a shot-gun wedding. WELL DUH! *facepalm* That's when I went from annoyed to down right mad.

I understand, I opened that can of worms and brought it upon myself and yadda yadda yadda...but come on people. If you know me at all, you know that 1. I've only been out of my 2 year relationship with BS for a little over 3 months 2. I'm not the type to just up and get pregnant, nor am I the type to get married because of it and 3. if there were a new "someone" in my life, there would have been more to read about it than randomly, out-of-the-blue becoming engaged to him.

So to set the record straight: I am NOT engaged to a high school football player! I am definitely NOT pregnant with his or anyone elses child. :)

It's a pretty ridiculous situation. But all the aggravation in the world will never erase the tears of laughter I cried when people took it for truth. So. Funny. Just goes to show you, FACEBOOK IS LAW! lol

Have a happy Tuesday, readers. <3